The parent playbook
You do not need to be a tech expert to guide your child through AI well. You need a rough sense of what is age-appropriate, a few good conversations, and some simple family rules. Here is all three.
Age-by-age guidance
Under 5s
No chatbots or AI apps on their own. If you use a voice assistant near them, keep it adult-led. At this age, real play and real conversation matter most.
6 to 10
Use AI together, never alone. Explain in simple terms that it can get things wrong and sometimes makes things up. Avoid companion or AI "friend" apps entirely.
11 to 13
Most AI services set a minimum age of 13, so check before allowing an account. Agree what it can be used for, talk about homework, and keep an eye out for companion apps.
14 and over
Give more independence, but keep talking. Focus on thinking critically about answers, protecting privacy, spotting deepfakes, and not leaning on an AI for emotional support.
Minimum ages are set by each service and can change. Always check the current terms before allowing an account.
Conversation starters
Show me your favourite thing you have made or asked with AI.
Have you ever seen something online you thought might be fake?
What would you do if an AI told you something you knew was wrong?
Do you think AI can be a real friend? What makes a real friend different?
Where is the line between AI helping with homework and doing it for you?
What kind of things should we never type into an AI app?
Make a family AI agreement
Rules land better when everyone agrees them together. A simple, signed family agreement makes expectations clear: which apps are allowed, when, what is off limits, and what to do if something goes wrong. You can build one in a few minutes.
Build your family agreementIf you are worried
- Childline is free and confidential for children on 0800 1111.
- The NSPCC helpline is on 0808 800 5000 for adults with a concern about a child.
- CEOP (part of the National Crime Agency) takes reports about online child abuse.
- Internet Matters has free, practical advice for families on AI and online safety.
Last reviewed: July 2026.